Melanie Brown and baby Angel Iris Murphy Brown.
ESSENCE.com: Is Phoenix privy to all the gossip?
No, I tell her what she needs to know because there are certain things
that your kids don't need to know. They don't need to know the ins and
outs of breakups. I simply give her a heads-up: This is how it is and
if you have a problem with that, then let's talk about it.
ESSENCE.com: It's truly sad to hear such things.
My thing was to look at the bigger picture: for a Black guy in 2007 to
even go there. As a Black man with "X" amount of kids, you already have
a horrible stigma attached to you. Do yourself a favor and be classy.
ESSENCE.com: Have you ever run into Tracey Edmonds?
No, never. And if I did I wouldn't be horrible, I'd be polite. At the
end of the day, she¹s in that situation and I'm in a whole different
ESSENCE.com: Did you call Eddie after watching the clip of the show?
MEL B: I
did. I called him and we had a really brief conversation and it went
something along the lines of, "I'll call you back"—and he never did.
ESSENCE.com: So you haven't heard from him since then?
I called his assistant to let her know I was going into labor and the
baby would probably be born within the next 24 hours. I asked her to
please let him know and she responded, "He knows." And still nothing;
not even a hello to the baby, not even a nappy (diaper) or flowers
ESSENCE.com: Was Eddie ever excited about your pregnancy?
MEL B: Oh
this was a completely planned pregnancy. This wasn't some random, "Oops
I fell over and I'm pregnant." I don't live my life like that. I'm a
responsible parent and have been a responsible single parent since I
got divorced. This is the one thing that really annoys me. If I wanted
to have a baby I would have had a baby a long time ago. I wouldn't have
waited eight years to have another one.
ESSENCE.com: Wow. So you two sat down and decided to have a child?
Yes, of course. As soon as I had my IUD removed we proceeded to get
pregnant. It happened quicker than we expected but it was perfect
ESSENCE.com: What made it perfect timing?
Because we planned to get married at Christmas, but then we had to
change it once I got pregnant and we decided that after the baby was
born we'd get married.
ESSENCE.com: Why do you think he went flip mode and publicly denied his flesh and blood?
First of all, I'm a very independent woman so if you're trying to
control me, that's not going to happen. In any relationship, it's all
about compromise. We were going to buy a house in Malibu and move in
together. Somehow things got confused along the way because there were
certain things that went on in his house with his lifestyle that I
wasn't prepared to be a part of. So that became a trippy discussion,
which ended up where we both refused to budge.
ESSENCE.com: What is it about his lifestyle that you don't like?
I have a baby with this guy so I have to be somewhat respectful. I'll
simply say that there were lifestyle changes that he would have to make
if we were going to live together and do it properly. I have a house
where it¹s about my kids and me. I don't have people knocking on my
door at 3 and 4 in the morning. I have a very simple life—I don't have
a ton of people looking after my kids—I'm a very regular person when it
comes to that because I want my kids to have a normal life as much as
ESSENCE.com: Hold up. I'm confused. Were you hoping to iron out those issues upon your return from London?
Yes. When I left for London I thought I would return and we'd finish
our discussion. Instead, I returned to, "It's over and I'm with
somebody else." For me, that was confusing. I still haven't received
closure on that because before I left, we said, "This is what I need
and this is what you need." But I got nothing. And I'm not about to go
knocking on somebody's door like, "Hold on a minute, what happened? Why
are you doing this to me?" I have too much pride and self-esteem to be
treated that way. Obviously, what I said must have hurt him to make him
react that way because the guy doesn't speak about his relationships,
period. I didn't want to have a rocky pregnancy, so I moved to the
beach with my kids and my dogs. I had an amazing pregnancy—my labor was
so easy—and I gave birth to an amazing daughter.
tomorrow to find out what Mel says about Eddie as a father, her new
leading man, and her next steps now that paternity has been established.
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